The fine line

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I have recently found out that there is a very fine line between being rude and not being pushed around, let me explain.

Up until a year ago I had a very fiery and quick temper. I would snap at almost anything and everything wound me up. Being the youngest of four it did cause quite a lot of problems to say the least. I would scream and shout as I thought that was the only way to get people to listen to me or stop being annoying. However, as I grew up and got jobs I realised that if I let everything get to me and react to situations without thinking I would be rude or even offensive in some cases.
It was that fighting instinct of 'I will use any means to get you to back off', which got me into trouble on more than one occasion. 
So as I learnt to think before acting and to bite my tongue when customers were rude or difficult I started to apply it in my day to day life as well. Now don't get me wrong, I do believe it's a good thing to have in your skill set and is essential for adult life but I do not condone being walked over.

 People often mistake not being rude or not calling someone out for being rude as being passive rather than politeness. They think that because you don't shout and scream at them, that you're okay with it. So sometimes it is good to just take a moment and say 'I know I don't always say it but when you say ... it hurts and makes me feel ...' I understand that that's not always possible but you might be surprised by their reply. From my experience most of the people don't even know their words are affecting you, so communication is key.

 That whole balancing act continues, as far as I know, throughout life and maybe it's a british or awkward thing but it is so important to to speak your mind when things are affecting you. 



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