Changes

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Throughout life you will go through many changes. From the cells dividing in the womb into a baby and then that baby growing and learning new things, like crawling and walking. Growing teeth and hair, speech and movement come next and then school. Changes between friends and family; in your feelings and to the mundane height changes. Then puberty; one of the largest changes to go through. Your body, brain and heart all change. You fall in and out of love and friends, your priorities change. Trying to find that balance between socialising, finding yourself, school and being 'grown up'. Now the change of university or moving out is upon me and it's made me rather reflective. 

So many people say they hate change or it makes them scared, anxious or as if they can't cope. However, everyday as we embark on this journey called life we are encountering changes. The weather, an obvious one, is constantly changing. The winds and rains of this world do not answer to our pleas and though they can be predicted and observed they can still surprise and devastate us. 
As it is with our emotions. We can try to predict how we will feel in certain scenarios and try to keep them in check, but they will often change without our permission and we may feel as if we have narrowed down how we feel about a situation or person and then something shifts and a devastating tidal wave of raw emotion threatens to engulf us. 
When change is forced on us is can cause anxiety as the unknown is well, precisely that, unknown. 
I am not going to pretend that I am unaffected by these innately human reactions, or give you all the answers to dealing with changes. However, I was terrified when my feelings about people changed and I tried to hide it. I felt as if I had to live out the truth I had told them rather than the truth in my heart. There have been too many times when I have stayed friends or girlfriends with someone just because I used to like them. Let me tell you, it's not good for anyone to lie about how you feel. If you wake up one day and realise you really don't want to make the effort for someone or are really angry, upset ect with them then don't pretend. Accept how you feel and then try to tell them in a calm and sensitive way. Shoving emotions away, not accepting them or just out right lying to yourself about them is not a healthy way to live. 
So admit that you feel distant from 'x', scared about moving to 'a' and not happy with how things are going with 'p'. It may be the most powerful first step in dealing with your changes in a healthy and happy way. 



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